Over the last 30 years in my role as a mediator or decision maker, one or both parties to every dispute have complained that they didn’t feel respected by the other person.
Everyone wants to be respected; to be valued and appreciated.
However it is hardly surprising that respect is so elusive because it requires the other person or members of your team to be engaged with you, to “see and hear” you.
Most of us spend most of our days in our world of one, our world of me.
We spend a lot of our day thinking about our own needs and how we want to be perceived. We often think people are doing things to us; and if we are hurt we might lash out verbally or retreat into ourselves and give the person who hurt us the silent treatment.
If the members of your team are disengaged, chances are they are also emotionally disconnected from each other as well. They are worrying about their own needs; they are not worrying about anyone else.
Respect comes from connection with other people
We all have to be able to step out of our world of one, our world of “me” to be able to respect another person.
We have to intuitively pick up the needs and values of the person; to understand how they want to be perceived and then acknowledge and communicate that back to them.
This requires us to connect with the other person. Not only do we need to acknowledge them and what is happening in their world; but to do that well, we need to get know the people in our team. We need to establish strong relationships; strong connections.
Modern day football teams are constantly looking for ways in which they can develop deeper connections between the players, the coaches and the players and the community and the players. It builds a strong team who have each other’s backs; not a team of individuals.
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