You can’t change other people. You can only change yourself.

No-one else is responsible for how you feel. We all have to take responsibility for our feelings, our words and our actions.

When we use blaming and judgmental language against ourselves or another person we are stuck in the past. We are not looking for a solution and this will ultimately lead to a conflict.

However when we take ownership for our feelings and start to question what is going on for us and/or the other person we can then begin to move forward. What do we need in that moment; what are the needs of the other person? What questions do we need to ask of ourselves and the other person to get more clarity around the situation? What is important to me and to you? How can we move forward?

How much better would our relationships be if we stopped using judgmental/blaming language?


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